shame, shame, shame

I read something about shame the other day. I don’t know where I read it. Maybe I heard it on TV. I don’t have a TV. I read it somewhere then. I apologize for not remembering where. It seems that sometimes I only have an unfailing memory for random things. Such as remembering breeds of dogs.

The thing that I heard/read about shame was that everyone has their level of sexual shame. Meaning that even the most explicit, shameless, comfortable-with-sexuality person will eventually encounter something that will make them pause, blush. (I do not mean sexual acts, which are generally considered taboo, violent, illegal and retarded.)

I am talking about a situation where we have two (hold on) consenting, hot-for-each-other adults who are naked or partly naked together.

So there we have them, naked, and they are doing things to each other, which makes at least one of them squirm or scream in delight and then, all of the sudden, the blush-causing one says, “Hey, how come there’s only two of us here?”

Whoa.

Or there have the three of them, naked, and they are doing things to each other, which makes at least one (or two) of them squirm or scream in delight and then, all of the sudden, the blush-causing one person says, “Hey, you know how I told you I really like coming on women’s feet?”

Whoa. Whoa.

And so on.

Both examples that I gave are perhaps mildly risky. Thou I don’t really know. It’s not like anyone talks about sex ever. We talk about what we had for lunch or what TV shows we like to watch so I have no idea if these sorts of things (threesomes, ejaculating on feet) would be blush-causing. I am just guessing.

Okay but THE POINT IS.

The point is that it’s interesting that levels of shame are individual so that one person’s casual threesome is another person’s baddest taboo.

Maybe it's not that interesting. But when I heard/ read that about shame it made me think about what my own, current level of sexual shame was.


The First Annual Playboy U College Sex Survey

During the summer we polled the students of Playboy U on a variety of sex, relationship and dating questions. The results appeared in the October college issue of Playboy along with a student roundtable on the state of sex on campus. Here is what we learned: